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Chastity as submission
We’re all men, the privileged sex in our society. All men het — gay, bi, transgendered — possess the key to greater respect, to better paychecks and to deference from others — a penis.
Well, we know better than that. We tend to think with our “lower head.” Many of us allow our sexual drive to overcome our judgment. If you’re in a loving relationship, may wish to give your lover a tangible indication of your devotion and willingly yield to chastity.
For these or countless other reasons, a privileged male voluntarily yielding control of his cock, and therefore his entire sexual being, to his Keyholder is a poignant and emotionally moving act of submission.
There remains no question of your devotion after offering your lover the keys to your sexuality. The act of submission cements the roles in the relationship and reinforces the relative strengths of your personalities.
Submissive men and their dominant partners often find being “locked in,” with their different roles clearly defined, deeply fulfilling. Chances are you and your partner will, too. Submit to your Keyholder to fully experience submission.
Please lock me up — enlisting a Keyholder
Male chastity fiction often follows a typical pattern: an indignant or angry partner (usually a wife) puts her lover in chastity under threats. Such fantasies may gratify wannabes, but seldom reflect reality.
More often, the man asks his partner to restrain him, to become his Keyholder. Why should this be?
Any male understands better than anyone else how his sexual vigor may get him in deep trouble. A man committed to a relationship but with a roving eye may ask his partner to control him. Another may relieve himself and be sexually unavailable for a time. Whatever the reason, asking your partner to lock your cock away is never easy.
Some men wait for external events to create an opening, a news story or incident among friends. Others blurt out their desire without preparation. These approaches are unlikely to succeed.
Instead, once you recognize your need for male chastity, thoughtfully plan how to raise the subject. You’ll know best whether to present the idea as a gift demonstrating your devotion, a solution to a problem you both recognize, or even as a punishment for specific behaviors. Focus on your partner’s feelings, not your desires.
Defining the reason for chastity may not be enough. The timing and your specific approach can be critical. Here are some general suggestions. Adapt them to your own situation.
If there’s a specific, known issue such as premature ejaculation, don’t bring it up immediately after yet another unsatisfactory sexual performance. Wait until you’re both relaxed and you’ve performed some services your lover enjoys. Acknowledge how you behavior disappoints your partner and speculate (if you don’t already know) about the feelings your lover experiences. Ask if they need to express other feelings to you. Only then, and briefly, mention how badly you feel about your behavior. If you get a positive response, then ask if they’re interested in a possible solution. If so, now bring up chastity.
If you have nothing to feel apologetic about, we recommend opening the conversation after bringing your partner into a receptive mood as we said above. Describe your feelings of devotion or your occasional out-of-control feelings. The important thing is to begin with your genuine feelings and describe how you feel the gift of your sexuality, expressed in a chastity device and chastity games, might enhance your relationship. Be absolutely honest. This is not the time for hidden agenda.
It’s most likely your lover and future Keyholder will be intrigued and want to explore more. Encourage them to explore their own reactions over time and be ready to answer any questions.
Respectful, partner-centered approaches like these are more likely to receive a positive response.
Training for long-term chastity
When your Keyholder decides you must be kept locked away for more than a few days, be sure to thank them and indicate your acceptance of their wisdom.
In such cases, you’ll need to be certain your body and cage combination is ready for an extended ordeal.